The Quest for Sleep

From the featured blog, Confessions from a Working Mom
I’ll admit it…
I was one of those moms who thought she would spend her maternity leave leisurely strolling through the neighborhood, pushing a pram (no, I’m not British, but like Madonna, I like to sound that way); I thought I’d be spending afternoon coffee dates with my girlfriends; and I thought– for sure– I’d be getting lots and LOTS of rest.
Because, honestly, how much work could one little baby be?
Well, you know what people say what you assume… It’s not nice.
Six weeks in, and I hadn’t slept more than 90 minutes at a stretch since my beautiful daughter came home from the hospital. By 12 weeks, I was starting to hallucinate and took on the gaunt look of a strung-out addict. I brought in reinforcements.
Actually, I brought in Dr. Harvey Karp and what’s come to be known in my house as the “Baby Bible”– aka, his book, “Happiest Baby On The Block.”
In case you’ve never read it, I’ll encapsulate the entire 100-some-page book in a few words. It focuses on the theme of the “5 S’s”: swaddling, side/stomach position (that only counts as one “S”), shushing, swinging, and sucking. Dr. Karp claims that when you use some or all of these techniques in combination, your baby will sleep so soundly that your friends, neighbors, and countrymen will start calling him or her the “happiest baby on the block”.
I tried to follow Dr. Karp’s advice. I tried swaddling my daughter; she fought me like a Sumo wrestler, and managed to wiggle her little arms free in under 15 seconds. I tried cradling her on her side, her tiny body nestled next to mine. She pushed away, as though I smelled as if I hadn’t showered for days (ok, I hadn’t showered for days, but she didn’t know that!).
But, I am persistent… I am dedicated… I am as stubborn as an ox… and I kept trying… and trying… and trying.
And finally, one night, my daughter started sleeping. First, it was just in 3-5 hour stretches, but after three months without any shut eye whatsoever, that absurdly short period started to feel like I’d reached mommy-nirvana. After about four weeks on the “5 S” method, my girl was sleeping for 8-10 hours at a time, and I finally looked less like a zombie and more like the mother I’d set out to be.
Now, you don’t need this book to make the “5 S”‘s work for you. All you really need is some patience, persistence, and a strong cup of coffee.
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Comment by Kiwe on Feb 26 2010 01:29:38:
Im glad to hear that the 5 s’s finally worked for you – how horrible that it took so long for them to take. Fortunatly for our little one, it was a miracle from the first night but I have to say that my husband was the master at it – I just looked in awe!
Also – just for info for other mama’s in need of sleep – the Miracle Blanket (http://www.miracleblanket.com/index.htm) is the be-all end all!
Glad to hear that you stuck with it – that seems to be the key to parenting, try and try again!
- Kiwe
Comment by Kiwe on Feb 26 2010 01:32:21:
Oh – also – the video “Happiest Baby on the block” is really great. I was able to find one at our local mama resource to rent for free. It was WAY easier than reading the book while you are tired and have a crying baby!
Comment by Kisha on Feb 26 2010 02:56:13:
I wanted to ask if you are allowing your baby to sleep all day while you get chores done? You must wake baby up during the day so they can sleep better at night. Think of it this way if you sleep all day you will not be sleepy at night, you would be restless and watching television or something. Interupted sleep won’t hurt. I also use to have the baby in what ever room i was in this made her feel safe and cozy. Someting she did not sleep but as long as there was eye contact she felt my warmth. Baby don’t come with instructions but they can be a lot of fun.
Enjoy your baby things will get better, sometimes a little crying from the two of you will help too. LoL
Comment by Becky Richards on Feb 26 2010 02:22:41:
Geez – I guess I was lucky… my little one was sleeping 6 hours by 6 weeks, 8 hours by 8 weeks and almost 12 hours straight by 12 weeks. Here’s the thing… I formula fed… and we let him sleep anywhere he would sleep which for the first 6 weeks it was in the Fisher Price papasan. After that the 5 S’s really helped, it was just getting the technique down. I ended up rocking my little one until he was 15 months old! Hey, you have to do whatever you can to get them to sleep