Don’t worry, you can’t spoil your child in the first few months. “Babies need the security of knowing you’re there for them,” says McCoy. Holding your child will reassure her that you’ll respond to her needs. “At around 4 months, though, I encourage parents to let their children find ways to comfort themselves,” she adds. Babies console themselves by putting their hands in their mouths, reaching for toys, or rolling over. “They don’t need 100 percent of your attention,” McCoy concludes.